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Good morning Coffee Lovers, Did you miss me? Today is the day. New Year's Eve! Are you ready? I am pretty sure most of the world made their New Year's Resolutions. I must admit I only did it once but I don’t believe in making resolutions. Why you ask? Well, I just feel it's too overwhelming to keep these promises. What if what you wanted to happen, does not go your way? Then we get sad or even depressed and feel like we failed ourselves. I believe we are not promised tomorrow so we do what we can and not feel as though it was a job and more like an award for even doing the little things in life. Some people don’t have the luxury to even think about having a new resolution. Now let me tell you that if you have one and you are strong enough and ready enough to make it happen for the new year please do so. I am rooting for you 100%. Just know if for some reason it does not happen as you wish it's ok. Be happy that you are alive and made it through the night and...

Hello Coffee Lovers, Have you ever answered a person when they ask "Are you OK?". If you are anything like me your answer is the same "I'm fine." It's our go-to when you don't want people to know or just not ready to talk about it yet. The big thing is that you don't want anyone else to worry about your problems, but we do want them to care. Sometimes our "LITTLE" problems feel unnecessary to talk about to others because many people have bigger issues. Most humans repress feelings into a little box in the back of our minds. Let me just tell you it can happen to adults but more and more children are doing the same. Is it from learning off their parents on how they act or is it a gene from the bloodline? I'm not sure. We all have something that really takes us down emotionally and physically. Some more than others. knowing depression runs fast and hard. You just want to crawl in your bed and cry and not eat or even avoid p...

Hello, my Coffee Lovers, Today I wanted to talk about what our minds and heart says against what we really do. Here is some stuff about me that many don't know but I am good at many things. Yet I only want to be a writer. I can bake pretty well too. I can Cook, I guess I got that from my father and I can hold some notes in singing depending on the song I am what they call an alto. My coworker asked me why am I working where I am working that I am good at singing even though he can tell I'm nervous at singing. I guess what I wonder who I am as a person, who I ever wanted to be was a writer. It happened when I was young, believe it or not even as a kid I was shy and well not as well-spoken as I am today. My teacher told me "I get it you don't want to talk to me or talk to these other students but here is a piece of paper and a pen, talk to that." Ever since then I knew my calling. I will admit that being able to be good at so much feels good but I know wh...

Good evening my coffee Lovers, The last two days I have been dealing with my son and his tooth issue that should have been fixed along time ago but no Dentist wanted to touch him. It is because he is very scared of pain and the dentist. I have been to an ER last night and today went to my dentist and they couldn't help him. I also called three different dentists and they said no because of insurance. My son's teeth had to be fixed like a year ago. I feel so overwhelmed and emotional because as a mom all I want to do is make sure my boy is fine. He is finally eight years old and he has a bit more encouragement then he did before so I am trying to make sure he gets over many roller coasters and this one is a big one. As a parent,we have too many struggles whether its money, discipline even bullying. I have been through that allot with my older boy. That was a big struggle that will be for another day. I know many parents have their own struggles and it is so hard to ...

Good Morning my coffee Lovers, I want to take this day to talk about expectations. We all have them but can we be taking our expectations a little to far these days? I know for sure I am somewhat the same when it comes to expectations. I am here drinking a coffee from home expecting it to taste like ones in Starbucks or Dunkin and when it does not turn out that way I get discouraged. We all expect the best and feel as we deserve the best. Am I saying its a bad thing course, of course not but can this world be taking it just a tad to far? I saw a person who went food shopping and yet she had a cart full of groceries expected the clerk not only to take out her grocery out of the cart while she talked on the phone but also expected her to put in her bank card which it was on her side where she stood. It's bad enough she had to also bag her groceries up. That's where I feel expectations get the best of us. Did we forget how to be human beings? I am pretty sure we showe...

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Good evening my coffee lovers, As a parent or even an adult, we overwork ourselves to the bone. I can Guarantee there are billions of you right now stressing over a great Thanksgiving dinner, stressing over traveling and stressing over the best outfits for the dinner party that your about to have with your people or family that you have not seen in a while. We try our best to not be stressed but let's be honest life has us stressed and as much as we try to avoid it happens. I have been thinking of ways we can less stress us out without changing our lives completely. Now as many of you would like to be drinking your stress away or smoking I have other ways that are safer for your body. 1) Listen to music I know you think it sounds ridiculous but it works out great on mental status. I recommend you listening to something that brings you up as a person like. “ Happy” by Pharrell Williams or even Miley Cyrus "The Climb". It does not have to be the songs I ch...

Hello, my Coffee Lovers, Many of my readers, I can only assume are mostly parents if not, I apologize ahead of time. Today I think we should talk about parenting. I choose this subject because many of us parents had to deal with parent/teacher conferences in the last two weeks. I just came from my oldest conference, he is 15, a sophomore in High school. We all remember how High school was and how hard it was. I'm not gonna make it seem like I finished high school but I did go off to get my G.E.D and then went to college and yet I'm just in the tip of the iceberg for graduation, for my bachelor's degree, money does get in the way of that. I won't give up and my time will come when I walk down that aisle with my cap and gown and a diploma in my hand. Why I mentioned parenting because most of us want our kids to succeed, in life as well in school. Just so life will treat them better then we have been treated  in our younger years. I want that for my kids so muc...

Hello Coffee Lovers! When getting married, not many couples discuss how marriage is all about change and compromise and if the discussion happens, can you ever truly be prepared? Did you ever feel as though Marriage didn't live up to its reputation? Now let's get this straight, it's not that you don't love your other half but you do feel like you lost your individuality. I think this generation does not realize what it takes to be in marriage let alone a long relationship. Sometimes I wonder if it's our fault. Did we put too much pressure on getting them married? Many of us including me heard being in a marriage was the best thing for your life, and we went on with teaching our daughters cleaning and cooking and men they should have a job and provide for the family. We failed to tell them what you cook may not be all the husband wants or having a job means you won't fully be there for your wife when she needs a shoulder to cry on.  I have been readin...

 Hello my coffee Lovers! How was your weekend?  I hope you guys were nice and cozy.  I happen to be watching "Let it snow" on Netflix this weekend. I wasn't sure I wanted to watch it but said hey let's see if I can get passed 15 minutes of it. Don't judge! I know you do the same. It was based on teenagers and how love was either a big failure in their lives or a big success. You are probably asking why I asked if your heart is on your sleeve? It was because most of us have that problem. We love full and hard and well 50% of the time we don't get that love back. We all hope you would tell someone how you feel and they feel that way too and you guys live happily ever after like in the movies, well nope. you can be near the one you love forever and not realize how much you love them just like in the movie "Let it snow"even though it ended with hearts mended it was a rollercoaster of feelings. Even marriages have their ups and downs and you ask...