My morning Cafe

Hello coffee lovers, I hope all my readers are doing well and getting some good weather despite the rain. It's mother’s day and I wanted to talk about something different like boundaries. As mothers we take on a role that changes the rules from time to time. Boundaries between a mother and her child naturally envelope as a child grows,shifting from physical care to emotional and psychological support. In early childhood,mothers often serve as a primary care taker,with little space for perineal boundaries due to the child's complete dependency. As the child gains independence -through school friendship and personal interest -mothersmust gradually adjust  their role,stepping back to allow room for growth. This transition can be emotionally complex,as the bond forged through constant presence begins to loosen,requiring the mother to redefine her sense of purpose and involvement. These shifting boundaries can deeply affect mothers,often stirring feelings of loss,uncerta...

Hello coffee lovers, It's spring time finally!!  We are all thinking about things we want to do and things we have  to do. We are trying new spring drinks and enjoying the weather outside. Maybe thinking about new chapters in your life or old ones. I must admit I have been thinking about my past alot. I am thinking about how the past seemed so far away or just happened so quickly.   For example, anyone after 40, start to think about what  should change or what we could have done better. We are also recognizing, when we look in the mirror that things are not the same.Our hair is thinning. Noticing how tired we look. Then it's the weight change or just our face falling from gravity. It's a lot to think about and a way to become more stressed.  But  then I think about what we thought about becoming 18 or even 21 years of age. In our head we have this false idea of what age does or should look like. We focus so much on these numbers that show a chan...

Hello Coffee lovers, I hope the coffee is staying warm where you are. The weather has shocked us all in the last couple months but as much as the news. I want to discuss what I have been seeing and hearing and we need to discuss this. We are now in a point where women's rights are in the state of both progress and pushback depending how you look at it. In my opinion it is being pushed back into the beginning when we had no choice at all. The last couple of centuries we, as women, have had more opportunities than women have ever had in the past. We have voted and have strong positions and are able to be a mother and work at the same time. We have strived to have rights throughout the years.We succeeded and it's crazy that the people who want us back in that box we fought so hard to get out of. People want us to be subordinate to men like in certain place i wish not to discuss but shutting up and be quiet also having someone to tell me what i can and cannot do with my bo...

Hello coffee Lovers, I hope the snow and the freezing weather have not taken away your spirits. I hope it just made you want warmer drinks especially coffee based. Our spirits can be down so many times and we are just trying to find a way to bring them back to even just a normal feeling. Today I want to talk about trying to fix things,or people you may not know how to but yet feel the need to. Sometimes in our lives we meet people or we know someone in our family that is going through something emotionally or physically. We do our best to try and fix it knowing we really don’t know how. Even sometimes I feel myself wanting to help.It feels like I can feel their pain but sometimes I can't fix it. But unless it's our job we don’t know. I want to say I read minds. I can tell you what they need but I don't. Somehow i can feel them though it's a feeling that they just want to be seen or they need help but like us do not know how to fix themselves. I don’t expect any ...